I'm totally confused about this girls interest in me and dont feel like summing up our past on what happened. Here's our convo last night and i'd like opinions on whether she's interested or not based off THIS convo
Just want to point out she's an alcoholic and i'm helping her out with it. She knows i am interested but wants to "stay single for now" untill she feels she's stable for a relationship. No, this isint a BS excuse. Her daily life is TOTALLY consumed by her addiciton AND caused her to gain weight,
Me: You know, you're a totally different person when sober and thats the one I wanna date :p
Her: *Sends a selfie with some cleavage* my boobies are too big too (shes talking about how the alcohol caused her to gain weight)
Me: Why do I wanna date the sober you? Haha thats an obvious question. And don't tease me :p
Her: It's cause im too fat (shes implying when she gets sober, she'll lose the weight)
Me: You're not fat! You're fine. You know I like you for you! You dont realize this but when you're sober you're a completely different person, you're more calm and caring
Her: I can be mean when sober too
Me: Haha well so can everybody, you should come over to my house one day :)
Her: Maybe (she gives this answer a lot when i try to get her to hang out. she tells me she's extremely shy and thats why she barely hangs, and cause she doesn't want to develop feelings when she's just trying to get better)
Me: Stop being so shy and lets hang already
(2 hours later)
Me: Are you ok? what are you up to?
(the convo changes now)
ANYWAY... Opinions girls and guys?
- interested14% (1)33% (1)20% (2)Vote
- neutral43% (3)33% (1)40% (4)Vote
- not interested43% (3)34% (1)40% (4)Vote
i once texted her "you know, if you want me to move on, tell me"
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I don't want this to sound harsh so let me put on m kid gloves…
I don't think she's interested in you. i think she's interested in your attention.
I say this because I've been that girl, not an alcoholic but dealing with a huge issue in my life and I leaned on nice guys like you to pump enough attention into me that i could sustain what little self-esteem i had going for me.
If she really was interested, she would be trying as hard as she could to keep you. It's not every day you come across someone who is genuine enough to be supportive of something like addiction, and even more rare is it to come across a guy who will look past surface level attributes to the beauty we all possess within.
If you feel like you're being strung along…you are.
If you feel like you're being used…you have the power to not let her do that to you.
Most importantly, and I stress this to all you men out there: if she was interested, you would know.
My advice is to continue to be there for her, let her sort out her own issues before you inherit them as your own.
But for now, forget this idea of romantic entanglement. You can't expect her to be good to herself if you can't do the same…even at her expense.
be well and i hope this helped.0