Im 22 and I've never had a boyfriend, im always like i dont even know what i would do with him if i even had one.
I want one but I've never had a boyfriend so im maye afraid of showing my girlfriend side?
My closest friends all are in relationships and they are 22-24 and have dated their love ones for 2+ years.
Most of them always complain about how their boyfriends dont set their needs before them, or dont reply or dont want to move in etc etc.
Im guessing every relationship has some issues but it seems like its hard to be in a relationship at an young age when different parts want different things.
One wanting to move to study and one doesn't want to move, so thse things lead to breakups? sometimes im like oh gawd im glad im not them.
I want to be with a guy and settle when i know for sure that this is it. I dont want to date and to split up..
I just dont understand.. maybe again its because I've never had a boyfriend?
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I doubt that all of them are happy, but some surely are. When I have a look around, I'm married for many years now and very happy with my wife, then there are a few obvious reasons due to which people fail.
They think "falling in love" and "loving somebody" is the same. As soon as the feeling dwindles, it's over. They think that there is somebody with whom that feeling never disappears. Well, it does, always. Love is something that needs really hard work from both sides. If one is not interested, then it's impossible to keep things working.
They have the requirement to live the "perfect" relationship. I'm a pastor and marriage counsellor, but my wife and me had a counselor from the very first day on! Sometimes you just need the opinion of somebody who's not directly involved.
Many relationships nowadays are merely sexual. People want to brag with their experience. I do not know much about this "culture" in the US, but it seems common to talk about experiences over there (here it absolutely isn't).
And the complaints of which you talk I know from my counselling sessions with married couples. Most of those girls complaining that their "boyfriends" (that's no accidental quotation marks there...) don't put their needs first, would never do the same for their partners. In many relationships the girl dictates and expects the "boyfriend" to be happy with this - and then wonders why he suddenly lost his interest.
In older times people would have learnt from the older generation what's important to make it work. Nowadays the older generation itself consists of a large majority which failed its relationships.0