My bf and I have been together for almost a year now but it's long distance because we're 2 hrs apart. We see each other a few time a month but it still hurts being so far away from him. He's 20, I'm 19 and he's said before he wants me to love with him but last night he confessed he just wasn't ready. Tbh it kinda stung a bit, how Shld I take it? Is a yr too soon?
- He's just not readyVote A
- Give it another 6-12 monthsVote B
- He doesn't see it lastingVote C
- He has other reasons?Vote D
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Yeah, he's just not ready, and at your age and his age, that's for the best. No reason to give up on him. As long as you two are still able to make time to go see each other, make the most of that time together.
It's likely a commitment thing, but it could be numerous other reasons, too. Maybe his current living situation is comfortable. Maybe his current living situation is financially beneficial. Maybe he's anticipating major changes soon in his life, and he need the safety net of what he has now. Is he looking at major changes at work, or going to school, or finishing school. Does he tend to worry about money and bills? Has he already had a living arrangement with a girlfriend in his life before you that went badly? Or has he had bad roommates before?
Definitely talk to him, and find out what his concerns are, and get an idea of what his short-term future plans are for himself (as opposed to you two as a couple). If his answers don't make sense to you, then you'll need to figure out what he's trying to say a different way.0