I'm just wondering what kind of person would be more appealing. A girl who likes having fun, is immature, and doesn't like growing up, or a girl who is really dutiful and responsible but dreams of holidays when she could kick back and have fun if she could.
It seems like one is really great as a girlfriend while the other is really great as a partner. Who's more appealing to you? Girls can answer too, if you switch it around to a guy haha.
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Neither severe extreme is good. I think a *balance* (with a bit of both) is great.
I guess I would be considered more career-oriented because I am a very passionate person (when it comes to things I care about) in general. When I do something I go all the way with it. I LOVE the feeling of accomplishing something on my own. And I really love, love, LOVE what I do. So for me, work never *really* feels like work.
My job often takes up a lot of time, but also offers me a lot of freedom (as I'm my own boss). So I feel very, very lucky in that respect. And at this point in my life, I feel like I (finally) have a little more room to share it with someone. (when I was in my twenties that was definitely NOT the case, because I was still struggling to figure out what it was I even wanted for myself!)
People evolve at their own speeds. it's a personal, individual thing, so you really really can't judge someone based just on that. ( labeling people is ultimately pretty pointless). Everyone's different.
For me, personally, I knew I had to establish or accomplish certain things for myself in life (and have my own identity) before I could really truly share myself with anybody else.
I want a guy who has goals, some sort of passion in life, has at least SOME idea of what he wants out of life (and what's important to him), and is working to improve himself in some way. but I also want him to be *HUMAN*. ... Someone who realizes it's ok to make mistakes, he doesn't have to act like he's got it all figured out all the time, and can allow himself to kick back, relax and have fun once in awhile, and just be PRESENT, in the moment, and be able to share those moments with me.
A good partner/boyfriend/girlfriend is someone who balances you out, helps brings out the best in you, and you bring out the best in each other.
whether a person actually attains this balance is completely up to them. we're each responsible for our own lives and the people and things we allow in it.1