There's many reasons why you are getting unenthusiastic one word replies.
Instead of trying to dissect and figure out the reason behind it, why not just stop talking to girls who can't carry a conversation? Obviously the ability to have a conversation is important to you. So don't settle for weak conversationalists.
Honestly, this is a pet peeve of mine as well because I love to have conversations, especially if I like the person.
The simplest reasons behind someone not having great conversations are that they either aren't interested, or just can't hold a conversation.
So I wouldn't try to analyse, just let that person go. Find a girl who can keep you interested with her ability to hold a conversation :)
It depends on the girl, and the situation. I often get bored easily, not with the person, but with chatting in general. I generally only chat because I can't find anything else interesting to do, or because I don't know them IRL.
A lot of people prefer face to face conversation, and there are as many who prefer chat because they feel too awkward talking IP. It's easy to "run away" with a screen shielding your face. And then you have the classic attention whores who only pay enough attention to you to keep you paying any attention to them.
The only real difference between conversing in person Vs RL is that you really don't truly know who you're really talking to. Besides the obvious limitation of expression and tone.
- They don't want to seem desperate or clingy
- They don't like you
- They're busy
- They're bored
- They're sleepy
- They're mad at you
I don't do this unless I'm mad at the person I'm talking to. And I wouldn't even pretend to not be mad. I would first explain it to them, and then give short replies if I had to (because I don't like ignoring people on purpose, but neither do I feel very talkative when I'm mad).
"If so, why not just tell him you don't want to talk to him/her."
Because most people would consider that very rude. It's always easier to do it indirectly, than to flat out tell someone "hey, I don't like you, stop talking to me".
When we are not into you, we just don't put an effort basically.
There are exceptions of course. If I am sick, busy , occupied with sth, I cut as short as possible. Depends on the girl, you have to know the girl to understand the girl better. We are complex creatures >.<
They haven't had a need to develop personalities at any point in their lives. Guys carry out conversations for them, talk to them no matter what or how little they say, and ask all the questions without them having to think up any of their own to ask the guy. If there's no need for you to develop a skill, you'll never develop it. So they come off as boring to talk to an uninteresting.
Mate, ultimately girls are always indirect. We just need to conceive that. Because, they don't want to be at your face knowing that they might break your heart. They don't want to let themselves completely into the conversation for obvious reasons. So everything is indirect, and the pressure on the guys to comprehend them.
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for some girls I think it's just general wariness. there are lots of guys who act like predators and use the internet solely for the purpose of being creepy. so we never really know who we're talking to, and what you're real intent is. so in some situations, it's just a cautionary thing. (not necessarily personal)...
I am usually talkative, so if I do that I'm not in the mood to talk, or I don't know what to say or I simply am not interested in that person, although I usually make an effort to talk. And if I'm not in the mood I just tell the person.
Girls don't do that to guys they actually like. Fret not, I get the same shit too.
Either she isn't interested, tired, or maybe even busy at the time. But sometimes they just don't know what to say or how to reply.
The reason doesn't matter. If she does that, she's not interested. If she is, like a guy, it can overcome any other reason.
Not in the mood for chatting
She dislikes you
doesn't know what to say
All of them >.< so annoying
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