I was having a conversation with someone and I said that I usually say that I have a boyfriend because it leaves no room for the person to try and change my mind. I have even used it when not in a relationship. What about you? What things to do you say when your not interested?
How do you tell someone your not interested?
What Guys Said 13
1. What you say and do is the right thing and what a lot of women do cause it keeps away the persistent and obsessive ones whose egos are bruised if you simply stand strong and say 'I'm not interested' which in turn may turn into a situation that he may make you an object of his conquest to satiate his ego
2. Here it's about discretion is the better part of valor
3. Most time the more difficult a man finds a woman to be he wants to acquire her and may go to any lengths even stoop to conquer once she beings being his area of obsession even unwittingly. End of the day it's the woman who gets hurt in the bargain and in the same so do those who care for her, her job etc
4. It's not about proving to anyone how brave or courageous a girl can be, it's about the better judgment :) Say a no firmly but with 'I have a bf / husband' etc helps. Ofcourse there are those who go to the extent of checking if you have one & confronting you about 'facts' which is where the police & courts come in :)
Good luck young lady, do what you are doing - yes but understand what I've written :) Decide if you want to be hurt and in the bargain hurt those who love & care for you apart from depending on & looking up to you or better to hurt another person. Hurt and stuff is a part of life, it's again a choice one has to make as to where the hurt will reside :)
Let's also understand a single mom, separated / divorced women etc are perceived kind of differently than single girls in college :) In such cases it's best if they are hurtful to those who approach them than be hurt themselves :)1
I usually just say I don't look at you in that way. I don't like to lie or say other things because I have been the receiver of these excuses and it just makes me feel bad that the person thinks he is being kind when they are just brushing off their responsibility. Be an adult and responsible, people deserve the truth even if it hurts. Well that is what I think.0
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I just basically don't say nothing i say well maybe i can think things over, really am not willing to go into a relationship just got out of a bad one , feeling really sick lately got get myself back on my feet with stress related illness. If you got kids well my Aunt Sandy been watching the kids. The kids been staying with my
cousin and her husband who have kids the same age. First all when you meet someone you got to always
say something like my boyfriend and me have house things are going so so but we been having problems
but you always say you wish things would work out. You always put yourself to make that you want a Best
Guy friend never make it look like you would be interest in someone0
do not worry, do not fear, I'll show you a way to turn someone down and also turn down his tears. All you must do is speak like me, but maybe not dramatic to this degree. Say, I do not like you, no sir, I do not, but there is a hole over there so jump in to it and rot.0
Why can't girls simply be honest and not LIE to get the guy away? all you can do is simply say how he is a great guy but you're aren't interested into a relationship.1
Be a woman and use your God given talent known as your filter mechanism. Tell him "Dude, sorry i am not interested" its that easy. I hang out with a lot of girls and they shut guys down harshly in front of me. It hurts to see it, but that's what makes you a strong woman. Just learn to say no.0
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The best way is to be straightforward about your thoughts. You can use ignore techniques too.
Like if he tries to be too close to you then you can just show you are uncomfortable.
Or just do not be much friendly to any guy from start. This will make that guy realise that she is not easy for me.0
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I distance myself and they get the hint.0
The problem that alludes to though is that you're essentially saying "guys and girls can't be just friends". If a guy asks you out, and you say no, they're most likely going to stop being friends with you, ESPECIALLY because you have a boyfriend... and I thought guys and girls could be "just friends"?0
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Let's be friends.1
What Girls Said 9
BE BLUNT. You don't want to give mixed signals or be accused of being a tease. I tell men how I feel the moment I know how I really feel, if he's the one pursuing me. And I make it clear that my feelings won't change and that he's not going to convince me. I also explain to him that I don't want his friendship if he only wants to date. There's no point in letting them hang around with false hope.1
I tell them that i have too much going on and too much on my mind then act completely uattentive and uninterestive to make them think i'm a really emotionally unavaliable person lol they do try to chase me for a short time still but it doesn't last long because they start getting annoyed that i'm not being attentive of them whatsoever and they lose interest... lol.0
I use I have a bf which is always the truth but it doesn't work.. I've still gotten we can be friends though? And well your bf doesn't have to know. Eventually I just give up and I'll take their number like they insist then toss it in the trash or pretend to put it in my phone.. And my favorite one is while being hit on at a bar I just walk off mid sentence I'm over it. I hate being hit on most of the time it's annoying. It's flattering but annoying. Oh and I've had other people co workers be like nope dude she's good haha that was a funny one.0
I've hung out with a few guy acquaintances... I think they thought we were dating... but I straight out let them know from the start I just saw them as a friend and nothing more. I didn't know it... but I've broken a few hearts as I've heard from a mutual friend... she told me they are still stuck on me... so now that I know that I don't even bother hanging out with a guy that may have an interest in me other than friends (although it's hard cause I can't tell)0
It's not you it's me
Let's be friends
I am a lesbian0
Tell them in a nice way that your not interested , or just try to be his friend0
I usually say I'm not looking for anything right now and they get the hint0
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