I think that if she's unbelievably rude in the way she says "no" then yes, I think it's ok to ignore her.
I usually don't take a rejection personally, and I figure that just because she said "No" to a date doesn't mean I can't say "Hello."
I never got the whole "It's girlfriend, family, or nothing!" idea. If you DO have women friends, then aren't you putting in time and effort into someone who isn't interested in you?
I don't even look at a first (and only) date as a "waste of my time," even if I never see her again. I had coffee, it was good; I learned we weren't compatible, and I wish her the best. I put a small amount of time into something that... probably wouldn't pan out. I get not groveling, or putting energy into someone who is going to be toxic, but I don't get the idea of "Why bother putting in the time if it isn't going to immediately work out the way I want?"
I've got a "friend" who barely speaks with me these days. She basically puts me off. It's disappointing, but I don't look at knowing her (years ago) as a waste of my time. It may be disappointing, and I may not get why it happened, but... oh well. Even if the friendship has fizzled, and I never see her again, she's never been a waste of my time.
I am barely friends with most of the guys I hung out with 6 years ago. We'd spend hours playing Halo. I don't get to play Halo much, and I can't say I'm any better (or worse) for putting in the time. I don't speak with most of these guys... but I don't see any of that time as a "waste." It was a lot of time spent. It's one of my happiest memories - one I wouldn't trade.
It takes a big betrayal for me to look at friendship (or getting to know someone) as not worth putting in the time.
Any woman who rejects you as a romantic partner, yet still wants to be friends, is playing games with you. It will only hurt you emotionally to stick around. She'll get attention, and you'll get frustration.
Acceptable? Well, technically you can do whatever you want to do. But is it rude and unnecessary? Yes. Unless she was mean to you and acted rude, I don't see any point in ignoring a person completely. So what, if she comes up to you afterwards and wants to talk to you like a normal person, you'd just look away and pretend that she's not there? Yeah, that's rude. And kinda pathetic, honestly. You're putting in just as much effort into ignoring her as you would if you'd just talk to her like a decent person.
Also, girls are more than just potential love interests. Newsflash: you can have ACTUAL conversations with us even though we're not interested in dating you! Wow!
Seems to me like you're just taking rejection way too personally. You're overreacting.
Well, it depends. If it helps you move on, then yes I believe it is okay. However, don't be rude if she rejects you. I'd say ignoring is okay, if it makes you feel better. But if she tries talking to you, make sure you don't ignore her, pretend she isn't there, etc. But you're right. There is no reason to put time in effort for someone who won't do the same.
It's understandable but personally I think it's very childish. You've taken the time to get to know each other, maybe it was just a bad time, maybe she isn't over her ex, whatever the reason it's a bit of a toddler thing to do to stamp your little food and turn around because a girl said no.
Girls can be more than a walking pussy you know.
It depends on the manner in which she did it. If she was harsh, stay away from her. But if not, then don't take it personally. Just back off and start seeing other people, she might realize her feelings for you in the meantime and come back.
Best of luck :)
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It's okay to ignore her, but you might be missing out on something. She may not be interested in you sexually, but she could be a good friend.
I agree with the woman. That probably is making you look even worse in the eyes of other women, a turn off.
You are far better off taking the rejection, and standing there with confidence as if it didn't phase you, but regarding it as her truth in the moment. Women change their minds. That shows you have strength, are not messed up by the womans manipulation, instability and mood swings... you know women can be bitchy and moody right? They love the idea that the guy won't run when they are whom they are... makes them feel secure. If they feel secure, they feel attracted.
you are messing up and got it wrong...
If you're mad or hurt that they rejected you so you ignore them for a little while, that's natural and understandable.
You don't have to go out of your way to socialize with them, but if you refuse to say another word to then ever again, you're probably being passive-aggressive and spiteful (like you're trying to punish them for rejecting you).
I agree with you, when you asked her out and she said no, it told you she wasn't interested so why bother being interested in her anymore when you know for certain she's not into you. Its a waste of time and energy to give her anymore thought after that. Besides what would your friend propose to do instead? try to befriend her? keep crushing on her? nope when you get rejected you move on. Its as simple as that.
Not really. if she rejected you, she probably doesn't want to speak to you anyway.. I wish more guys would do this, actually.. it's so awkward having to talk to guys who I've rejected.. and it's annoying too because they're still holding onto a glimmer of hope that they can somehow get out of the friendzone
You don't have a woman friend, and you're a fucking puerile dipshit if you think your asking someone, means they cannot say "no".
That sort of shit is only done by fuckwits who's parents have never told them what "no" means.
Perfectly acceptable. She wasn't obligated to date you, and you're not obligated to continue talking to whom you don't want to.
Depends. If it's a girl yuo hardly know or you don't see her often I don't see any problem with it. If it is someone you HAVE to interact with (e. g. a coworker) its kinda rude because you are just giving her a hard time. If it's a friend and you ignore her for not beeing attrackted to you, then your a shitty friend.
Well technically if you can just cut them out of your life like that, then you never really liked them as a person anyways. So it's for the better, so that they can find someone who doesn't think of them as anything more than a potential sex object.
i am not a fan of the silent treatment at all, so i'd say no but it happens all the time so i guess its acceptable
i personally would just go on with my life and do my thing but i'd say hi or something if i saw them, i am not that rude
Why would you chase someone that Rejected you? I don't think your being mean or stupid, if I get rejected I wouldn't ever speak to that person again unless if they start chasing me and apologize too
"A woman friend of mine thinks that I'm being stupid and taking rejection too personally by doing that"
It depends on the situation. How are you still in contact with the woman who rejected you?
Rejection can hurt pretty badly, and it can lower one's self-esteem. So if you feel like ignoring her makes you feel better, then go for it!
If you two were friends first then you completely drop her when she rejects you it might hurt her feelings but you should cope how you need to
If she's rude, sure. If she's in your social circle and politely declined then you're taking it too far. There's no "time and effort" involved in being civil to others.
I don't have a problem with that, but a woman who has rejected me previously is much more attractive to me, because I know she's going to make work harder to please her.
because just dropping someone out of your life completely, especially if they were once a friend, just because they didn't want to date you is an asshole move.
Oh, it's totally acceptable. Why keep a reminder around that you've been rejected? just next her and move on.
NO!!! You have got to show that girl that you are perfectly fine without her. Dont show weakness! It is also pretty childish if u do that and im 16 bro just sayin.
You can still be friends with someone who doesn't fancy you! If you get on well then it's still possible to remain friends
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