Yeah, its the same old story. I've been a victim of this stupid 'friendzone' more often than i would have liked. But I personally find this 'friendzone' a BIG insult, so I never wish to remain in it. Is this wrong?
Whenever I'm put into this dreaded frindzone, its obviously humiliating for me to know that i wasn't good enough for that person. Besides, when I have feelings for someone and she puts me in the friendzone, I wouldn't want to stay in contact with her anymore and suffer emotional pain on a daily basis, while putting on a mask of friendship and pretending to me normal. So I make it a point to sever all links with anyone who freindzones me (which involves removing them from social networks, email contacts, phone etc.). But these women don't take too kindly to it, and say that 'I'm mean, immature and they'll miss being my friend'. What the hell?
I know its THEIR choice to put me in the friendzone and I'm not opposing that. In the same way, shouldn't it be MY choice not to REMAIN in this friendzone? When I have feelings for someone and she sees me only as a friend, how can this even be called 'friendship' anymore? And I honestly wouldn't want to have anything to do with someone who doesn't find me good enough for her. When I don't judge them for friendzoning me, why should I be judged negatively for choosing not to stay in that friendzone?
Most Helpful Girl
I dont think its mean at all. You two want two different things out of eachother she wants a friend but you want more. Whats the point of the relationship or friendship between the two of you if you're wanting more out of it. It would just make you sad and who wants to be sad?0
Most Helpful Guy
Well I see why you got put in the friend zone. You've attached your self esteem to the position that you fill in this persons life. By being upset that you're just friends it implies your uncomfortable with the idea of looking for someone else or that you do not believe that you'll be successful with others. Being just friends with a girl is no problem when you feel like you could find someone better for you than her. The problem with being just friends is when you continue to make this girl a top priority when she's made it clear you're not hers0
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