Andy and Alex are both genderless. Andy and Alex met online in a game and enjoyed talking to each other so much that they exchanged emails after about three months. Through these emails, they sent each other pictures of themselves to see what the other person looked like, and both found each other attractive to a certain degree. After about a month of emailing back and forth, Andy suggested that they talk using the TextMe app, which assigns random numbers to users and allows texting/calling as long as there is access to the internet. Alex agrees and they text each other using that app for hours every day. These texts are usually flirtatious from both parties, though they have discussed a variety of topics that include things they would normally keep to themselves and have thus deepened their relationship. They are beginning to move from texting to calling.
Andy believes that Alex likes them and Andy knows that they like Alex. However, Andy is uncertain whether they SHOULD like Alex. Andy is 18 while Alex is 32, almost 33. Andy knows that their family is uncomfortable with them dating anyone more than three years their senior, and Andy feels that they have a responsibility to respect their family's wishes, but at the same time, Andy wonders if their family has a responsibility to respect their happiness, no matter the age of its source. The relationship between Andy and Alex hasn't become a serious one yet, but it certainly has potential. Should Andy trust their heart and see where the relationship goes, or should they deny any possibility of it developing further right now?
Please try not to assign genders to either of these characters in your interpretations and responses, and please be as objective/without bias as you can. Thank you.
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It is your life. Your family can't live it for you. Whether or not you are going to be happy is dependent on the paths you chose for yourself. My dad married my step mom and she is about 15 years younger, although they were a bit older when they met. Anyway they have been married for over 20 years now. So I know age gaps can be overcome.
I personally wouldn't date an older women, because past experiences have taught me, they have a hard time respecting a younger man as an equal. Women seem to make a much bigger deal about wanting a man that is their "equal" than a guy does. So in the end, them obsessing about the age difference ends up destroying the relationship. Every guy I know that has dating older women have had this same problem.
As long as the two of you don't dwell on the age issue, it shouldn't be a problem. It may mean some additional compromises are in order, since you are in different stages of your lives, but I don't see a problem with dating them. Dating isn't the same thing as marriage. If it doesn't work out, then you just have to break up with him. At least then you know that isn't something you want to do again, and won't resent your family for standing in your way. No matter what it should be a learning experience.0