My friend recently introduced me to a guy at her church. He seems really lovely, kind, and easy going.
The first time we met, I saw him looking at me from afar, then he came and shook my hand, as my friend introduced us.
Then the next time I came to the church, my friend wasn't able to go, so went with my sister and brother inlaw instead. After church, he came right up to us after the service finished, and we spoke briefly, then he ended up talking to my brother inlaw for about half an hour.
I wasn't able to go last week, and I am aware that he went on two camps for kids inbetween now and then.
We ended up going just this past Sunday night again (my sister etc). I noticed the guy was there, but he was sitting next to some girl. Then after the service, he didn't come up to talk this time. He was talking with his friends, and the girl he was sitting with was still standing next to him, the whole time.
I felt kind of gutted over it, and like a bit of a loser, I felt disappointed.
My brother in-law went and joined the conversation, so I kind of had to follow him, as I didn't know anyone at the church.
Then my sister joined too, and started talking to the girl. Soon, my sister introduced me to the girl, and we spoke briefly, Then they kind of carried on their conversation. After that, the guy and I started to talk for a little while.
Then the girl interrupted our conversation, and said to him "I'm going to go and get my bag, do you want me to get your jacket?" And he agreed to this.
Then we all left after that. I turned to wave, and say bye to them both, he was friendly and waved, but she wasn't very friendly, and avoided eye contact with me.
I feel upset, I know I clearly don't know him very well. But he seemed interested to begin with. And nice normal guys in my general age group are becoming really rare. I really liked him.
I'm not competitive at all by nature. Should I compete and fight for him? (Which is what I usually do) or just give up?
- Give up, clearly he is taken.63% (12)46% (11)53% (23)Vote
- She was probably just acting territorial5% (1)29% (7)19% (8)Vote
- Fight for him, before they are "official"32% (6)25% (6)28% (12)Vote
She has been going to the church already for 2 years, but I think they got to know each other better on one of the kids camps.
This has happened to me many times before. I meet a really great guy, but soon after, another girl comes along and pushes me out of the scene. I usually give up.
Any tips of what to do?
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Fight, fight, fight! He sounds nice, and you sound like you like him. I think he would have introduced her as his girlfriend in a show off manner that guys do if he was actually taken. The best thing to do is to get in contact with him, see and talk to him outside of church. Show him you are interested by talking to him and asking questions, and to meet up. You can do it!2