Been dating a girl for little over 2 weeks (She's my first girlfriend though she's had boyfriends in the past. We didn't know each other very well before we started dating). And by 'dating' I mean we've been on a single date and have been unsuccessful in finding time to set up another. (mainly work/school related)
That first date seemed pretty positive. I enjoyed myself and it's clear that she enjoyed herself and she wants to set up another.
We didn't do much but talk. No hand-holding, hugs, kisses etc. I'm not too fussed about that. We got to know each other better and I really like her.
We're also both very shy.
Now we've started the new term of school and I feel as if our relationship is frozen in place. I try to talk to her whenever I can but during every recess her best friend often swoops in and then any conversation becomes nigh impossible.
We talk in the classes we have together but it just seems as if we're not advancing in any way. I'm pretty sure to an outside observer it wouldn't even seem as if we're a couple.
I really want to hug her, hold her hand or even so much as touch her at all but I feel that if I make any advances like that it would just make her feel uncomfortable. Apparently she had a bad experience in one of her previous relationships. She's so reserved with her feelings and it seems impossible to figure out if she's even that interested in me or not. (She at least likes me a little bit because I can tell she enjoys talking to me)
Everyone expects us to have kissed and hugged already. I know I should take things slow but this is unbearable. We won't even be able to organize another date for about 2 weeks. I feel I could sort this out if we actually had alone time outside of school but I don't know what I should do until then.
Any advice would be welcome.
dating shy girl but things going too slow and feeling pressured by others
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My first piece of advice the next time you talk to her and her bestie swoops in to speak with her see if she texted her first, no I do not mean snoop her cell, I mean try to notice if her cells out all the time. When I was dating I texted my bff all of the time with SOS. If not she did have a bad experience in the past, let her take her time. You could be pressuring her and not even know it. Just give it time in all seriousness and if its still not going anywhere move on. You can't wait around on one person ever. You're young but won't always stay that way. Good luck!0