I don't believe in love at first sight. I'm very rational, I love with my head, and not my heart. To me, love is a process that happens slowly. A guy has to earn my love in the same way that he has to earn my trust and respect. I don't want to over-invest myself in relationships, especially in the beginning, because I don't know what kind of guy he is, and I don't want to waste my time/energy on someone who could turn out to be a jerk. I definitely won't be putting my career, hobbies or friends before a guy that I just met, no matter how attracted I am, I have self-control. That is, I won't make him my top priority until he makes me his. And I'll only put in as much time/effort into the relationship as he puts in, nothing more, nothing less.
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While I understand you view, sometimes life and love isn't like that. I agree that you should be smart in all situations, but love is a tricky thing, it'll sneak up on you without warning. Love at first sight can happen, but it's definitely romanticized these days. You have to be sure someone is right for you before you jump down he rabbit hole. You can feel love for someone but don't have to act upon it until you are sure they deserve it. The first few months are a dream, but when you get totally comfortable around someone, that's when you see the truth reveal. If things are good then, you might have a real thing. Only then should you consider placing your love interest right up there with your career, friends, family, and hobbies b/c. hopefully he's just as involved with all of that with you.1