So.. I've been talking to this guy for 4 months (ironically today!), dating him for about 3, and I feel like I'm actually in love. But, I don't know if I'm just a cheater, or I just don't feel like the relationship is real because we haven't met in person. Due to the fact that I talk to other guys still. I even have a special "friend" I still enjoy being around, even though I'm suppose to be in this relationship. I really do love my boyfriend, but I just don't think that our relationship is solid yet. So, how are online relationships actually suppose to work, when it comes to commitment and everything, is it really the same rules as a normal relationship?
P. S. My boyfriend and I actually live in the same city, but because neither one of us have cars or time is the reason we haven't met.
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To be honest --and maybe I'm just an old dinosaur-- but the whole "online relationship" concept blows my mind. I just can't understand how people can develop any sort of romantic attachment to, not only someone they don't see often, but someone they've never even met in person. Also, I don't have an adequate level of confidence that people are who they say they are. There are a number of users on here that I don't believe they are who they present themselves to be, whether its using fake pictures or just plain old pretending to be someone they aren't altogether. I won't name names of course, and I'm not sure enough to call anyone out anyway, but when I see someone's pic is some hot, barely legal-type and they act very hypersexualized, and play the whole "I'm only 18...*tee-hee*" role, I'm immediately suspicious. Same goes for dudes here. There are a few profiles I've seen with some super-handsome or super-in shape dude, and in some cases, something about it just sets off my BS radar.
Additionally, and forgive me if I'm jumping to the wrong conclusion, but not meeting you when you live in the same city seems highly suspect. I understand you dont have cars, but you could take a bus or get a ride or something within a 4 month span. To be honest with you, I wouldn't meet him alone if I were you until you know for sure. You never know, it could be some pedo or something. Maybe you've skyped or done some live video stuff and you know its on the level, but until you've had some kind of live conversation with them and you physically see the words coming out of their mouth in response to you, I wouldn't trust anyone.
But anyway, I'll get out of concerned dad mode, haha, and just say that I'd agree, nothing is solid until you've met. No boyfriend worth his salt would go this long without meeting you and expect any sort of commitment.1