Have you ever been really attracted to a girl or liked her a lot, but never approached her or talked to her? Why?
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Absolutely! Every damn day of high school and often after that. I never had any confidence with girls. And I never had anyone to help me with advice. No one I trusted, anyway. I had no problem being friends, but putting myself out there as available was just too difficult. The possibility of being rejected was just too frightening. I can accept not having the qualifications for a job or failing to get a good grade, but romantic rejection felt like a denial of me, as a person. Still does, to be honest.
The word "friendzone" has been beaten to death recently, and it has taken on some poor connotations due to some guys that can't accept responsibility for their actions, but for me, and a number of our friends, it was what happened when we failed to make it clear that we were available and interested. Now, I also had a friend that made it very clear on a number of occasions, but always picked girls that thrived on being worshipped by guys that can't have them. Too all those reading this, that is a horrible thing to do to a person, guy or girl.
I guess what I'm trying to say, is that you girls are very intimidating. And there are a lot of guys that just don't realize that we are pretty intimidating too. Some of us just never really figured out how to get over that, or have been hurt and rejected too many times to try it any more. Maybe it's the same for the girls too, but I've never been one, so I can't say for sure. ;-)0