So i started going out with her about a month ago. Today we were making out and i pulled her skirt up a bit and she had heaps of self harm scars on her legs. She quickly pulled her skirt back down and said she had to go. I stopped her and asked her about them and she said they were from about 6 months back when she was depressed. I honestly don't mind the scars and think she's gorgeous no matter what but she told me she thinks they're disgusting and won't blame me if i break up with her. I want to prove to her that i love her and her body and they don't matter. What should I do? How do I help her?
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I have a ton of scars as well, when I first started dating my ex they were all still really recent and really red and noticeable. so they really embarrassed me, but whenever he would notice me looking at them or when I started to seem sad he would take my arm and kiss each one of my scars then would go to my leg and kiss each one of those ones. Tell her that they don't bother you and that she is just as beautiful with them as she would be without them. There isn't all that much that you can do to help her other than be there for you when she is ready to talk. It's a really hard thing for people who have self harmed to be able to talk about it, since nobody seems to understand. Just be there for her as best as you can and tell her how much you care about her and that when she is ready to talk you will still be there.1