My boyfriend wants to try having a dominant submissive relationship, me being submissive. The only problem is I know nothing about that type of relationship. So I was just wondering if I could have some information about it before I agree or disagree to try it.
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At best you'll have to a lot of research and online discussion, such as here. You'll have to discern what i call the 'psych-sexual' components of all this. Find out the roots of his desire and see if you resonate at all, particularly going back to your clearest, earliest memories as best you can. Example: perhaps you had a father who ruled the roost, and the merest stern glance from him would fill you with fear and maybe a shiver or two.
Examine your past vanilla relationships, see if you were at your best when the guy was assertive. This would indicate what is a widespread form of acceptable submission on a woman's part.
Main warning, make sure this guy of your is not seeking some 'lifestyle' or pornographic fulfillment. Then you would likely be doing it only to make him happy without ever getting a chance to learn more about him, or more importantly, about yourself.
One thing i will say is that having researched and explored this issue for the better part of five decades (and no i'm no expert) i would advise you to periodically study it regardless of what happens between you and your boyfriend. You're likely to find it a vast and rich tapestry that is only hinted at by the tag 'Dominant and Submissive."1