I'm used to the pattern where I meet a guy, he seems better than the last and seems like he's real and doesn't play games, but he always ends up treating me like garbage after a short time.
How can I break this cycle? I'm ready to have a relationship, but I'm sick of EVERY guy playing games.
Most Helpful Guy
It could be a number of different things. Without knowing anything about you, or your relationships I can only make some wild guesses.
It could be the type of guy you are attracted to. For example going after guys with tons of confidence, or otherwise known as a narcissist. Or you may like the way players talk to you, and don't understand that the only types of guys that talk like that, are players that are just saying what women want to hear.
It could be that you unknowingly train these guys to treat you like that. If you haven't been in a healthy relationship, you may keep starting fights, thinking it is normal, when in fact it could be driving the guy to act in ways he really doesn't want to act in order to deal with you.
You could have some type of princess complex, and be mistreating him, or expecting too much out of him. This could lead to resentment.
Your boredom may be causing you to start a lot of unnecessary drama in order to entertain yourself. If you don't have a hobby then this is a strong possibility. I have noticed when a woman says she is too busy to have a hobby, she is always acting crazy and starting drama.
It could be that they start not to like you as they get to know you, and instead of ending it quickly drags it out longer than they should. People often won't even realize how miserable they are with their partner until it has been a while. Somehow it just kinda creeps up on us, and we are treating them poorly, without even realizing we don't like them.
It could also be that a lot of people are just terrible excuses for human beings. We all encounter our fair share of these people. Maybe you have just been really unlucky.
I would do some self reflecting and see if you notice any behavior on your part that may be attracting you to a certain type of guy, or if you are treating the guy in a way, that might cause him to react this way.0
- Show AllShow Less