I'll try to shorten this as much as possible.
Met and fell in unrequited love with one of my best friends, girl 1 (G1) from July 2013 to March 2014. She broke my heart three times. I ended the friendship in March, haven't seen her since. In Nov 2013, I went G1's play by myself and met G2. She was super sweet, we exchanged numbers. From then to April 2014, there was very little contact between me and G2 because her mom didn't like our age difference (she was turning 17, I am now 20).
It took me a while to move on from G1. G2 started talking to me again a few weeks after G1. She turned out to be wonderful. There was mutual attraction toward each other. It was dificult to get together because her mom still disapproved. A few weeks ago, G2 said her mom still disapproves when we were trying to set a date. She said she'll talk to her mom and try to let her see me. G2 texts me apologizing profusely that her mom isn't budging and a relationship together just unfortunately isn't possible. I was really disappointed. That was this week.
At work, while still liking G2, I met G3. She is really nice, yet I didn't feel that immediate spark like I had with G1 and G2 (although G2 was less compared to G1. After G1, I felt more cautious)
G3 asked if I was seeing anyone, and at that time (few weeks ago), I was speaking to G2. I said that "Nothing was official at all, but I am kind of talking to someone". G3 and I are friends, She texts me every night. We're going to the movies next week.
At the movies, I'll tell G3 that I'm not speaking to G2 now, and if she wants to date, I'm willing. But I want to take it slow since we're coworkers. But am I settling for her? I don't know her well and didn't feel that immediate spark I had with G1 or G2. Might be because I don't know her that well yet, right? That has to be it. She *is* really nice. Beautiful too. Maybe I just need to get to know her to feel invested
But how do I tell her that I"m not seeing G2 anymore? Bluntly?
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Chemistry and spark is important, and often unexplainable. I've had it with guys less physically attractive than others. I will say that, for me, a spark can develop if there's at least some attraction to start with. But I'm speaking as a woman. Men are often quicker to know these things I think.
Go to the movies and see how you feel after. I also don't know that you need to bring up G2. If you're going on a date, she already assumes it's not too serious with her. Especially since you're not even sure if you like G3 yet, I'd wait for her to bring it up and then let her know.1
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