i recently just told my best friend that I have been dating a guy online for the past two years. when I told her that we haven't talked on the phone yet she immediately started to believe that he was a fake and that he was some old guy with a wife and kids and the reason why he doesn't want to talk on the phone is because it will blow is cover. now I don't believe this at all. I've been talking to him everyday for the past two years and I am almost 100 percent positive that he is who he says he is. but the fact that she even brought it up made me think a lot... I mean I think that I know him so well but how do I really know? he could have been lying about everything for the past 2 years. even though I strongly believe that what she's saying isn't true, I can't help but think about it. I really just want to take the next step and talk on the phone or on webcam or something, I mean it has been two years I think its about time, right? I'm just nervous as to what he will say, because I think if he says no I might have to break it off. even if he is who he says he is which I believe he is, I don't want to continue a relationship with someone that isn't going to go anywhere. he says that he doesn't want a girlfriend because of me, and I don't want a boyfriend because of him, but if we're never going to take the next step what's the point of not dating and having actual relationships?
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Well personally I believe your relationship is fake, regardless of whether or not the guy is fake. If you've never talked, seen each other, or done anything together you can't call that a relationship at all, just may be a pen pal at best.
Ask yourself, why a guy (we're talking the ones that NEED physical intimacy) would not want to meet you after TWO YEARS, not to mention not even talk to you. He most likely has a family and is enjoying the attention that you are giving him, though he is doing a descent job of keeping his cheating to a low level.
Why would you want a relationship with somebody who after so long doesn't even want to talk to you? How much of a relationship do you think you can have through a computer?
This is a sham caused by modern technology. Giving the illusion that you have an emotion bond with somebody you've never met.
I don't know if you're ridiculously shy or have low self esteem but you need to turn the computer off and go look for something REAL in your life.3