Over the weekend I hung out with some friends without my bf because he was away for the weekend. these are friends he's met and hung out before.
One friend in particular was very hands on with me. He repeatedly rubbed my back and put his arm around my shoulder, etc. I think he was just being friendly but the touching made me a bit uncomfortable. I tried to stay away from him by walking with other people.
Is this something I need to tell my bf or this is not a big deal?
Most Helpful Guy
Yes you should tell him Anonymous and I will tell you why. The general rule of thumb in these issues is always "better safe than sorry". Consider this: would you have your boyfriend find out through another source or would you prefer to cut the issue off and bury it? I have always (personally) practiced this and in following the direct and honest approach it allows for your partner to say to themselves "I can trust him/her" because they realize you will tell them if anything untoward takes place.
My opinion, you simply say "I need to be honest with you. I hung out with so & so and felt uncomfortable because so & so kept putting his hands on me. I am not trying to upset you or cause you to go after him but you are my boyfriend and deserve to know that while I handled it, it did happen and I don't want you thinking I ever held anything back from you." After that the issue is over. He will be pissed at the guy but will gain a ton of respect and trust in you.1
Most Helpful Girl
I'd let it go and just keep your distance from that guy... but if it happens again, or if he flirts with you, you gotta tell your boyfriend.2