Okay, I have recently got together quite unexpactatly with a guy friend. We hung out one night when he told me he liked me as more then a friend, but he had been fighting the urge to tell me, because I am about to move away. I reciprocated his feelings which I told him and then we talked about how we wanted to proceed. He wasn't really sure about long distance relationships, because our age difference is seven years and he didn't want to tie me down. Besides, it is not that great to start a relationship as long distance. As long as I'm not away, we agreed to date, but I have noticed that he is fighting the urge to kiss me or hold my hand most of the time, although he clearly wants to. I think he probably thinks this will make things even harder. I really like him too, more then I liked anyone in a long time, and now I don't know what to do. Should we try long distance? I am going to live three hours away soon, but that's not that much, is it? And we already agreed to keep in touch, while I'm away, so I fear, if we break up and stay in contact, which we both really want to, then I am going to ask myself "what, if" all the time. So should we just give it a try and see how it works out? And if I decide I want to, what is the best way of telling him?
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I feel 'Three hours' is a stone's throw compared to----Half way around the world... This is my LDR story.
Over three years ago, a man from Egypt found me on FB and fell in love with me. After getting to know him and his lovely family on Yahoo and Skype for several months, I then flew off to the magical land of Egypt, where I stayed with him for 30 days. Things went so well that I flew back again, three months later, where we ended up tying the knot in Cairo. After returning back to the states months later, we began experiencing many problems with our relationship. I blame myself for a lot of it. However, some of my problems Began out in Egypt when we were together, so to make a long story short, I may have indiscreetly 'retaliated' against him. But we are still together, although have find ourselves either breaking up, going back or---Taking a break from time to time.
I always tell everyone when you are in a LDR that it takes two people to make this work. It takes a lot of effort and patience and compromise when in this sort of relationship, and of course, there are going to be a few problems. Many times it's insecurity...
No, I don't feel those few hours apart are going to be That much of a problem. And if you sit down and have a long talk with him about This, then I am sure some agreement, some compromise can be made. This can be done, if worked hard enough at.
Simply tell him you would like to 'Try' this out, that you don't want to lose 'touch' with him,. And maybe do Skype to keep things going even longer And stronger. Perhaps if he knows all of this, he will slowly start feeling more Secure with everything he is yearning to do. And always remember: Age is just a number, not a reminder.
If it's meant to be, Old Mother Nature will sow the seeds needed to reap a good romance, no matter how far she has to spread them. Find out where this Might just take you. And if you didn't, you most likely would always be wondering----What if? All the time...1