Why does my new boyfriend (of 6 months) not want to constantly have sex with me? He's an amazing boyfriend apart from this and he loves me very much. We have sex about once or twice a week (the sex is not terrible but not crazy passionate, either) I thought this amount was quite low but waited and see if things picked up.
However, a few months on there's no increase and over the last week or two we've tried to have sex 3 times and every time (granted, we had been drinking) he couldn't really get hard and we just had to stop.
I'm not unattractive and generally get a lot of attention from guys. He is also attractive, so I'd say we're in the same league. However, when we do have sex he often dims or turns the light off. I'm seriously, seriously beginning to think that he doesn't fancy me/like my body. I've raised this with him and he's obviously said that's not the case- but what am I supposed to think? Every time I see him I want to f**** him sooo bad and I thought that all new relationships were supposed to be non-stop f***ing.
Like I said, apart from this everything is awesome, I'm just worried he doesn't fancy me enough. Is this normal for a guy?
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Nothing is "normal" for a guy. You're making the mistake of making assumptions. All new relationships don't HAVE to be about non-stop fucking. You obviously have an extremely high sex drive. These are reasons that address your issues:
1) Is he overweight? This will affect sex drive. Mine decreased when I became overweight with the last g/f.
2) Is he older? This will affect sex drive. Mine decreased after 27.
3) Maybe he dims the lights because he's embarrassed of HIMSELF. Leave it to a woman to be egocentric about things and attribute this to herself.
4) As other guys here have said, some dudes do not have the same sex drive. I know a 50 year old that still has sex like 5 times a day for hours at a time.
You should stop worrying about the sex and start concentrating on the relationship... unless all you want is sex. If that's so then just let him know you want to be fuck buddies so that you can pursue another man on the side that will fulfill your desire: meanwhile this lets him know that you are no longer interested in him as a romantic/life partner. It's the fair thing to do.0