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I haven't personally, but I've studied the subject a lot.
Frankly, I find it incompatible with our current social structure:
-Adults "own" kids in our society. This responsibility makes paternity certainty fairly important. (Though modern genetics helps with that)
-We are a fairly sex-scarce society. Partially in terms of amount, yes, but also in terms of how hard it is to establish a sexual relationship, at least as a guy. When something is scarce, we tend to be possessive of it. In this case, imagine one of you continues to have sex with other people. Then you come home to your husband/wife and you're never in the mood. Perhaps they can't just go out and "HAVE SEX" like you can. The one person they had a chance to have sex with is never in the mood because they are sleeping with everyone else.
There IS a way in which multiple sex partners works, and that's multiple-partner relationships.
Imagine, for instance, you and a girl friend of yours live with two guys. All four of you are in a relationship. With a 1-1 relationship, the two of you won't always be interested at the same time. Your libidos won't always be in sync or as strong. But with multiple partners, if you aren't in sync with one person, you might be in sync with the other. This works better the more partners you have.
This isn't some BS weird fantasy I came up with off the top of my head. This is the social structure of bonobos, or "pygmy chimps", that is partially responsible for their peaceful nature. And this is also the sexual layout of hunter-gather tribes, which was 95% of human history. (200,000 years of modern humans. We were hunter gatherers up until about 10,000 years ago.)0