So I've seen this guy four times. We hit it off instantly, I feel like I can be myself with him and we have so much fun. I usually don't let myself feel this way when it comes to guys because my ex hurt me bad. He once asked me where we were headed because he didn't want to be lead on (after I went clubbing with a friend and he+friends happened to be there, I didn't want my friend to be the third wheel so I hung out with her).
I have met pretty much all of his friends and last time we went to him and watched a movie after.
It got pretty heated at one point so I pulled back, which he didn't take well. I tried to explain but I didn't do a really good job. I told him that my ex had been a real douche (didn't tell him that my ex pretty much forced himself on me, and that on my birthday when I was out of town he cheated on me). He said that he felt like I rejected him and I told him that that wasn't the case. He then asked me to leave. It was two in the morning and I had to go through a park where guys started shouting after me, a few blocked my way and one grabbed my arm and wouldn't let me pass. I called him right before the guys got close but he sent me to voicemail.
I was terrified and so pissed off. It felt like once he realized I wasn't going to have sex with him he thought it was a waste of time. He told me that he needed to think. Yesterday he texted me and asked if I'd called him (i hadn't). I asked him how he was and he said "ok, on my way to the movies. How are you?" I texted back "honestly, I have been better, I didn't like the way we left it last time." he went "it got pretty awkward so I don't know if we could have done it any different.."
Didn't reply to the last one, should I? Feel like he was the one who made it weird. He wanted a hug before I left which felt strange.
Am I wrong? What would you've done?
One of my friends says he probably is insecure because I have a lot of guys after me, which he saw when I went clubbing with my friend.
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I'm sorry, but he sounds like a real jerk. He is obviously used to girls giving in to him and you probably bruised his ego. But what is completely unacceptable and irresponsible is for him to ask you to leave the safety of a home at 2am, knowing very well that there are numerous dangers out there that could harm you.
Seriously, if this is the character he is showing after just 4 dates, I would stay away from him. I am sure you could do a great deal better than him... Sounds like he still has some growing up to do...0