She does not do this routinely but she finds it difficult to say no when he friends take her out. However, I have told her that I feel that clubs are not a good environment for people in a serious relationship. Most people go to clubs because they are looking for something. She is not looking to hook up with someone, but her girlfriends sure are. My gf does not have a very strong personality and she is not very resistant to peer pressure--drinking and partying usually lead to trouble. If she's looking for trouble, she will eventually find it.
I have been honest about how I feel and shared it with her without forcing my will on her. Do you think I should tell her that if she wants to party like a single girl, maybe she's not ready for a relationship?
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You don't trust her. Sometimes a lack of trust is well deserved, but either way it's not a good basis for continuing the relationship.
The reality is that you're both adults, and you both have free will. You're not her father, and while you can provide input by telling your partner how her actions makes you feel, you should not be attempting to control those actions. I know you know this, and it sounds like you've tried to do right by her.
Compromise is, of course, the operative word, and in this case there are probably avenues for compromise that you have not yet explored, but we all have a point where we put our foot down. When you've reached that point all that's left is to feel angry and hurt. You feel how you feel; I don't believe anyone should be telling you you're not entitled to your feelings. However, if the time ever comes that your feelings and the boundaries of your relationship are irreconcilable, it's time to look out for your own happiness and let her live the life she wants to live without you.
I've been in this situation while trying to maintain a LDR, and I ended it. Not only was she throwing her nights out in my face, but mutual friends were telling me I should be wary about what she was doing. Thankfully I listened to them, because they were right. :(1