For example, I dated two different girls and they both turned me down for different reasons.
Girl#1 told me I was too clingy and didn't give her enough space early on. I called and texted her a lot, and wanted to spend most of my free time with her. We didn't date for very long because she said I was too needy. Learning from these mistakes I made sure not to make them when I started to date Girl#2. With Girl#2 I called her only on occasion and I didn't try texting her daily. We went on a few dates over the course of 2 months. I made sure to give her plenty of breathing room. But over time she told me she wasn't feeling it and she did mention that there's not much communication between us, and that it wasn't working out.
I learned a lot from this experience. Yet which of these 2 extremes is worse?
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Extremes of ANY isnst good. You met two types of girls thats all. One wanted space anther wanted you to bug her more. There isn't one recipe for all women. Just like there isn't one for all men. When you get to know someone you find out what they want by asking questions and getting feedback. So, once you get to know a girl you will know if she is the independent type who doesn't want to be called all day every day. or the less independent type who wants to tell you were she is every 5 minutes of the day. Then you decide for your self what kind of a partner you want to be. One who is independent or one that needs to know the wear about of his partner at all times. Then you choose a girl according to what you want. Very Simple!
Ask your self what do you want. Do you want to be clingy or not? Then choose a girl who wants what you want and you should get along just fine in terms of clingy/non-clingy. There are only problems when both people are not communicating their needs and on top of that dont want the same thing. You haveto pay attention. To many times people are wrapped up in liking the person that they dont step back and look at their actions and the other persons reaction.1