8 months ago I was engaged, he broke my heart, and I am ashamed I ever said I'd marry him.
Been dating, and recently have gone out with a few great guys. But last weekend one blew me away! I mean talked for hours, was so sweet, best good night kiss ever, and since then he had been blowing up my phone with the sweetest texts.
he's a surgical resident (but I am forensic psychology grad student therefore busy). We've had a few follow up dates but he cancelled our second real date. The next day he told me that during his fourth year of medical school, he dated this girl and after only 7 months proposed, she agreed to move with him to start residency they planned everything, she bailed breaking his heart. He then told me how "amazing, beautiful, funny, and sexy" I am, but that they still talked. And I was like what are you saying? and he's like I don't know we could maybe get back together, but I like you and want you (he doesn't know what he wants)
He blew me away, I mean almost literally. But I don't want to be some girl he strings along. Like I would date him knowing I could get hurt. But, right now I am getting bad mixed signals...
So what do you guys think of sending him a text saying, "you are sending me mixed signals. I am not asking you to marry me I want to date you. I've realized can get other guys, but I want you! I know I could loose you to your ex, but based on what you've said as of now, you want me too. So do you? because I'd be your friend, I just need to know"
I think the point I want to make is that I can get other guys, and that I don't expect a marriage proposal here... I don't know
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""you are sending me mixed signals. I am not asking you to marry me I want to date you. I've realized can get other guys, but I want you! I know I could loose you to your ex, but based on what you've said as of now, you want me too. So do you? because I'd be your friend, I just need to know"
I don't think that is the message to send. I also don't know if you should try and convey your message via text. I think this stuff requires at the very least phone conversation and even better to do it face to face
but I would really be concerned about a guy who could go back to his gf at some point. basically he is not over her and you could end up in a really bad spot. I think in order to really date someone and give them your all you have to be of a single mind that this is the person I'm dating, no one else. someone isn't going to walk through the door, or call me that might make me drop this person.
I'd be very concerned about his lingering feelings for her. after all they were engaged0