So i've been talking to this girl i've met online for... 2 1/2 months now.
a month and a half into "talking" to her (so that was a month ago) we finally met up and had a blast!
I've asked her why we barely hang out, and here's some of her responses (in chronological order)
- "I rarely leave my house" (which is true, but when she does, she either runs errands or is hanging with her best friend of 8 years)
- "i have social anxiety and can't even go to a starbucks by myself"
(I finally met her)
-"i feel uncomfortable and awkward hanging with you because i dont want to develop feelings right now. I'm going through depression and home problems"
-she always says "maybe" or "We'll see" to hanging out. I finally upfront asked her if she's saying a polite no, or means it. she said "i mean it, my mood is always changing" (idk what that means?)
However she casually flirts back and gets offended when i do stuff "a single guy can do" so to speak. So basically she likes me, and wants a relationship (she said that when we first started texting), but we barely hang, and i dont get it?
also is there a specific question i could ask, to see if she just wants my attention/a texting buddy or not?
- She just wants attentionVote A
- not enough info/likes you?Vote B
- otherVote C
also, she's asked me to hang sometimes but ended up flaking out.
also, she'll hang with "new guy friends" sometimes but not me?
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It's hard to say here, cause if she does have anxiety issues with being outside then that's really hard to deal with. Like certain situations may be triggers for her and she could have a panic attack. It sounds like she has some other issues though, maybe depression. Anxiety often leads to depression, and that makes your mood really messed up. I used manage this girl who had depression, and some days she just wouldn't show up to work (just randomly), like she actually couldn't get out of bed. So it can be pretty debilitating. If she doesn't live to far away, maybe suggest just hanging out at her place? So she's in a safe place...
But look, you're a young guy and this is hard for people to deal with, so it's okay if you want to back off.0