Is it emasculating to have your girlfriend drive you around?

I've started dating this girl who has her drivers license and a car. I myself have neither. She picks me up and drives me around when we go out, but I've been told by other girls that this can have an emasculating effect on me. She's never expressed any problems about it but I am nervous anyways. Am I just being paranoid or is this actually a problem? And if it is, do you have any suggestions as to how I could fix it?


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  • People who view that as emasculating piss me off because I had a really hard time getting and keeping a license when I was a kid, because I'm an epileptic and you have to be six months seizure-free in order to have a license or learners permit. So I had to let people who were younger than me drive me around, and I've always had to rely on walking or biking our pathetically mediocre public transportation or the kindness of strangers to get me to and from work and school.
    Hell, even my little brother got his license literally two days after I got mine, and my parents told me I had to take turns driving with him when we went to and from school, without considering that in high school he was a controlling, self-involved condescending dickhead who feels no compulsion to share. So it took me a looooong time to really learn to drive. Even longer for my family to acknowledge that I'm a good driver.
    So this is why I'm extra-sensitive to that "women are bad drivers" stereotype and really want to hit anyone who suggests that driving is for men, and being a passenger is for women.
    To this day, I still don't know how to drive a stick shift and yet my parents keep buying stick shift cars, which they automatically taught my brother to drive. Having to rely on other people for something as basic as transportation makes me feel like I have no personal agency, like I'm about as consequential as a sack of groceries. I know it shouldn't because then WTF does that mean for permanently handicapped people who will never be able to drive. . .
    Long story short, I can relate, kind of. And there's no logical reason to let it bother either of you. You're in a partnership that requires equal give and take. If you can't get a license, it's not your fault that she's doing all the driving. Do more for her in return if you WANT to, but not because you feel obligated. Oh, and pitching in gas money would probably be appreciated.

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    • Thanks, glad to know I'm sort of not alone with this haha. Also thank you for the advice about has money I will definitely start pitching some in.

What Girls Said 7

  • Lmao. No, it's not emasculating. Why would it be? I think it's so stupid that girls can't even give guys a ride in their car without having other people think that it's somehow damaging to the guy's ego. So so so so so stupid. Just be happy that you're not the one paying for gas.

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  • It honestly isn't a problem, if she doesn't give off signs that it is. Other girls can say what they want but you should just worry if the girl you're dating says something.

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  • It can only emasculate you, if you let it i. e. let your insecurities rule over common sense.

    She clearly doesn't give a shit and I honestly see no problem here.

    Those girls are retarded.

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  • Can it? Sure...

    Almost anything can emasculate you if you let it.

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  • I don't think it's bad. I think it's annoying how some guys just assume they're going to drive even if it's not their car.

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    • Ya, well I'm normally not worried about things like this, tbh it can seem a little petty to me, but I understand that girls and guys are different and that girls dislike things some guys don't understand. But thank you for the feedback I appreciate the reassurance :)

    • No problem! (:

  • You are being paranoid about it. If it bothers you so much then go get a license.

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  • I don't see a problem at all your just being paranoid :P

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What Guys Said 3

  • The fact of the matter is, you're so young that this is a total non-issue. Not all High School students get their driver's license at 16, or 17, or even 18 for that matter. As of now, you're in the same boat with a lot of students and there's no shame in that.

    One day you will get your license and you will completely forget about the days you couldn't drive.

    As for feeling emasculated, here's the thing... it would actually make you more masculine to appreciate what your girl can give you and be grateful for it. You're man enough to accept that a girl is capable of providing something you currently don't have. You're man enough to know who you are and not let other people's thoughts change that. You're man enough to understand that today is not your day to shine, but tomorrow will be.

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    • Thanks so much for the encouragement, I will definitely remember this :)

  • As long as she doesn't mind driving you around, that's actually perfectly okay. I think whoever has the license should be the one to drive, and not the one with the penis.

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  • It's great! You don't have to do aaaany driiiving

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