I'm aware that men outnumber women massively on these sites, and that a larger proportion of the men are actually looking to meet someone, making it very competitive with basically 5+ men for each woman.
I'm currently at 243 messages out with no dates. I've had around 30 replies, 12 women agree to meet, 9 of which gave me there numbers, 0 of which actually met me (lots of girls go on there because they want attention rather than to actually meet someone). I've not received any messages from women actually wanting to meet me.
Also my standards are not high, I only refuse to message about 1/20 of the girls on there, and that's usually because they are single mums or extremely overweight.
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Am I good enough looking to realistically have a chance of meeting someone online? Or will I just be out competed by better looking men? Should I switch to different pictures?
I'm not asking if I'm ugly. I don't think I'm ugly. Don't reply saying "you're not ugly". That isn't what I'm asking. Its more am I in the top 20-25% of men who actually have a realistic chance online?
INB4 its not all about looks. You are right. However looks play a big role. I accept if I was the 5th best looking man out of 50 who messaged a girl but had the right profile/messages she might go for it over the better looking guys. However if I'm the 30th best looking man out of 50 that message her that week I likely don't have a chance regardless of everything else. So looks matter a great deal.
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I'm surprised you haven't really had much success. I don't use online dating anymore, but I used to all the time. I stopped just because I have social anxiety and so I basically ruined my chances with dates because of that. Anyway, if a guy like you messaged me I would be happy but I would also feel intimidated because I think you'd be out of my league. I am a very unattractive woman. I usually responded to every message I got unless they were ridiculous messages like: "Hi, lets hook up tonight..." or something like that.
I don't have high standards when it comes to dating. The thing is with my social anxiety and the fact I am unattractive, I wouldn't feel that I am worthy of your attention, even if we got along great. So I might message you at first because I don't like ignoring messages from anyone who took the time to write me. The problem is, it probably won't go further than us messaging each other. I'm not saying ALL women, but there could be SOME women on there who feel insecure like me as well, and that could have been there reason.
When I did meet men offline, it was only the ones I believed were in my league and even then I would be a nervous wreck, which is the reason I stopped using it. I was wasting both my time and the guys time. Most of the time I ignore average to above average guys offline and online because I believe I am too ugly for any of them. I stay within my own league. Although of course that doesn't always work, most want better looking women.0