I know everything isn't about looks but in my experience looks matter a lot. I know I'm unattractive and I wish I wasn't. I can see that I get treated differently from attractive people not just by girls but by people in general and it makes me feel like shit. I get depressed sometimes because of it and I used to self harm because of it (almost a month of no self harm). Its very hard for me to deal with it because my family values looks and attractiveness a lot and they resent me because I don't have a lot of friends and don't talk to a lot of girls in particular? How do you guys and girls deal with it?
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I feel the same. But doesn't everyone? Isn't every single person in this shallow world insecure about something? (Mainly looks) This world, even if they never say so, is based on looks, status, money, etc. Never judge a book by its cover? What a joke. First impression=mainly looks. But you know, now that I think about it, it really doesn't matter. People may judge you, but you know how they say people only do that because THEY have insecurities. What I do is I might not be the most attractive person on Earth, but I can try to be BETTER. Yknow.. taking care of myself, working out, dressing nice, smiling, studying, have a better personality, etc. Would like this kind of person, or someone stuck up just because they're attractive? You don't think you're attractive? Then make yourself better little by little to the point where you go "hey I might not have a good looking face, but im fit, healthy, educated, rich, and happy." Now THATS the kind of person I would want to be around. Who cares if they aren't a Calvin Cleins model? Love yourself. Be happy. Surround yourself with friends and people that don't judge you based on looks but who you are. Because they're out there. People treat you badly? Smile! No one can be mean to a smiling, sweet, happy person. Unless they're jealous. Have a little faith in yourself. :) And remember, there's always someone that feels like you. you're not the only one and you're not alone.0