I think dating is important to get to know people before getting to know someone. I have found that in my past relationships depending on the situation, I never really dated even though I may have been pursuing that person I ended up with. Now that I know what I really want and will not tolerate, I'm realizing the importance of dating. I know people that date multiple people at the same time and they say it is increasing their chances of meeting someone special but I don't think going that route is for me. Just one at a time. What are everyone's thoughts on dating and how you should date? How long should you date before becoming official? Any tips would be useful.
- I date before I get into relationshipsVote A
- I find myself getting into relationships and see where it goesVote B
- I casually date without the intention of a relationshipVote C
- Other (explain)Vote D
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I think dating is a good idea before actually committing to a relationship. When you go out with a person on the 'first date' everyone is on their best behavior. So it is kind of hard to judge actual compatibility for more long term relationship. Although it has been many years since I have dated, if I was dating I wouldn't mind someone who was 'dating' multiple people as long as they were honest about things up front. This also can give you clues and insight on how a person is. Are they overly jealous? Are they okay with you have friends of the opposite sex? Are they controlling right away wanting to know what you are doing and where you are at.
I would say if I was dating I would probably go out with someone as 'friends' for at least a month or so before even thinking about an actual date much less commitment.
However consider the fact that I have been with my husband for over 20yrs now so for me it would be a lot different then the younger generations. My husband and I dated for about a year exclusively and then lived together for a year before we actually got married. This is what worked for us, however it is not necessarily what will work for everyone else. Good Luck with your search and dating =) Just keep it honest and you should have no problem finding the right person for you.1