So I've realized that over my lifetime I have a strong desire to date very Christian girls. They always seem so happy and cheerful and supportive and I adore it. The only problem is I'm athiest and not like your average Internet reddit born athiest I'm a biologist with a heavy interest in psychology and for those of you who don't know those are the two professions with the highest percentage of agnostics and athiest and there's a reason for that. It's not that I don't believe it's that I can't. Someone can lay it out in front of me and I'm naturally just going to see a flaw and I can't help but pick at it. I can admit that anything is possible and I honestly don't know but I can't force myself into believing in a religion. I know I could never marry a Christian girl (and I mean the heavy mission trip with your youth group no takin my clothes of till she sees a ring kinda girl) so would it be wrong of me to date someone like this for a short period of time just so I can enjoy the type of care they tend to shovel out even though I know eventually I would have to end it or accidentally destroy her view of religion.
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You'd be dishonest if you lie to this girl in any way. Answer any questions she has. Ask her questions.
As long as you tell her your intentions and give her the opportunity to make a choice while knowing all the facts, then you have done the right thing.
Do yourself a favor. So you can understand HER better, I strongly recommend you read C. S. Lewis' books. Start with The Problem of Pain, Mere Christianity and A Grief Observed.
Let me ask you a question though. Do you ever plan to get married? If so, then what kind of woman do you plan to spend the rest of your life with? If you, one day will be happy enough to spend your life with that kind of woman one day, why wouldn't you be happy to start spending your life with them now?
Why would you waste time being with a woman who can't make you happy forever if you believe that there is a woman out there who can make you happy forever?
Do you plan that your tastes in women will suddenly change, and some other kind of non-Christian woman will walk into your life and make you happier than a Christian woman like your girlfriend? Or do you plan to never get married? In which case, would you be perfectly happy by yourself? If so, then why take the risk of hurting someone else?
As I said: read those books. It may help you to come to terms with what actually makes you happy versus what you think will make you happy.
In the mean time, be honest with your girlfriend. That's perfectly fair. Also, don't be so naive to think that some slip of your tongue will make her question her whole philosophy. Christians, real Christians who have earnestly struggled with these questions and investigated their faith versus all other options, have heard everything you have to say and more against it. They have already researched and thought through all the topics you have to say and more, but still see God. They could not stop seeing if they tried, because they have tried. Rare, but they exist. I'm one.0