I've got an issue with my girlfriend Amara and I would like some help to understand her, so I can determine if she's for me. This is a question of Nature versus Nurture.
Do you think that persons in general, who act unkindly, insulting, depressed or violently is something they have willed, or is it something that has been taught to them?
Tell me your thoughts and please explain why. More details are more helpful.
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Aw very honest question.
First thing, I believe that all behaviors are taught, our reactions to them are personal but highly influenced by our surroundings. Beauty is taught. The images that people in power promote and endorse in a society becomes the national standard.
I believe a woman who lashes out acts in this way is one who has learned to be this way. I say this because I see nice young girls very hopeful and nice and a young boy will be crass, and rude, perhaps try to impress his friends and sleep with her and leave (or just do things that to him is fine, but very hurtful fo rher).
I think most women (or people) have been betrayed by a person they loved, and lets face it society gears women at a very young age to desire a unconditional love, a husband and family (Barbie, Ken, Pregnant Barbie doll, BabyDolls..) and so we mostly enter relationships with high hopes and even if we are not "girly" this is in the back of our minds while men are influenced by other things at a early age (GI Joe, Transformers, Ninja Turtles...)
So once obviously these dreams are shot down a girl has to deal with coing to terms with reality and sometimes they are so shocked that harbor depression (I am not good enough for a nice life and family, job etc) Untrusting (Will be unkind to people because they "dont care about me anyway") and even become violent and irrational some time. Not knowin what to do with the wounds.
How do I know this? Well lets just say I acted unkindly to a guy who showed genuine interest in me after dating for the first in college (shutter*). He said he thought i was unique and I said take your dumb ash pick up lines somewhere else...:/
Now, maybe that was a bit much but this was after two break ups in a year from bad guys and hearing every reason why to hook up with a guy (WOWs, your SUPER pretty, smart, special) it just became well, rubbish and many women experience this and its hard not hardened by these things.1
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