I'm going out with my best friend. At first she was very reluctant to go out with me and spend time together, but we're now on our 7th date and 1st year together. We've gotten comfortable flirting with each other, we trust each other completely, and we don't feel shy about sharing embarrassing stories about ourselves.
But she's still not attracted to me. Like she says "haha it takes more than flattery and compliments to get me to like someone else ;) but it's sweet, thank you" which is a very confusing message.
Or when I flirt with her, she flirts back, then she adds that "I don't know if it's good that I know you like me, but I know lol."
Or when I buy her gifts "Tsk tsk, guys always say they spend a lot for their girlfriends, and shall i remind you we're not even boyfriend and girlfriend yet lol. XD"
Or when I ask her out "I don't even like going out lol. On average I only hang out with each of my friends once in an entire year. But we've gone out quite a lot of times this few months, so I don't know why you'd think we haven't seen each other enough yet in recent times haha" and then she proceeds to be enthusiastically reschedule her appointments and even propose things to do.
Okay that was a lot of rambling, but how do I make her fall for me? Girls, have you ever ended up liking someone you didn't think you had an attraction for? What changed your mind?
She said she's too busy with school to go out for next year. I told her that's not going to stop me from trying to ask her out anyway, and she said
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Yes, I've fallen for someone I wasn't initially attracted to. Once I got to know him and enjoy his personality, I realized just how amazing of a person he was and started to notice little things like the little freckles on his nose, his smile, his curly hair, etc.
That said, I feel like this girl is dragging you along. Unfortunately, I don't think you're dating. If she says you're not dating, then she sees the 7 dates you've been on as hang outs. It seems like she is very wispy washy with her feelings.
There's only so much you can do to try to get her to like you. You can be kind, thoughtful and funny. Surprise her, be there for her, be your awesome self! But at the end of the day, if she's just not feeling it, there is nothing that will change her heart (or mind). In that case, it's best to look elsewhere. Good luck!1
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