I've tried online dating, and it seems like I just attract the creeps who want sex. Same in real life, my boyfriend broke up with me two months ago and since then guys who I haven't talked to in years have messaged me asking me to hook up or send nude pictures. I'm really getting tired of this, I don't send out that sort of message and every time they ask I give them a direct no. I just really want to start dating some guys who don't just want me for sex, or even just hang out with them as friends. I'm tired of being alone. All my friends cut me off after the breakup and I've been absolutely alone for two months.
What can I do to meet people who actually want to get to know me and not just use me?
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Unfortunately for you, men who are willing to get to know you, and do not demand sex to remain in the relationship, are very rare.
Many men who are religious are this way, willing to wait. There are also men who do not know God who are also willing to wait.
But to find them... You yourself must wait. And wade through every guy who will say anything he thinks he needs to say to convince you that he is willing to wait- while he is only willing to wait until he feels your defenses are down.
My best advice is to learn to listen to your instincts, which are the still, small voice in your soul that tells you all about a guy you are looking at. It will tell you things about him that it'd take a lifetime to know, otherwise. They are called your "gut" feelings.
When your instincts align with your heart, THAT man will be the man who will spend the rest of his life with you.0