I hear this all the time and people that know me personally will tell me that i'm a great catch which is different from a stranger saying you are pretty why don't you have a boyfriend. I obviously don't have a problem attracting guys, I'm single by choice i'm not even looking that's why lol. I always wonder why myself and others get asked this question. Not everyone wants to be in a relationship and not every pretty girl or hot guy is relationship material I think that is why so many people fall for what they see and get disappointed when they find out someone's true colors because they can get past someone's looks. I'm glad that I'm not superficial or shallow, but I assume that people that are surprised that someone that they attracted to is single because of their looks is shallow because they never stop to think well maybe that person could just like being single, is a jerk, a cheater, insecure etc. What does everyone think about this? Is this something people say to flirt? (because I don't think its cute lol)
Why do people always tell me that I'm too pretty to be single? Why does everyone assume good looking people should be in relationships?
What Guys Said 5
Because a beautiful girl can have nearly anyone they want. So guys just assume they already have a boyfriend by default, because why wouldn't they.1
They are bring nice to you.1
that was a "breaking the ice" comment he was making to you1
What Girls Said 11
In high school one guy in response to me saying I was single responded that I had the boobs and as for one [boyfriend]. I think it's because so much of our culture is obsessed with looks and it's been engrained that skinny/good looking people especially girls are superior in every way to the ugly girls. Ads, movies, tv, music, etc. all promote the idea that the best girls are the pretty girls.1
I got that all the time and I was single by choice too. Sometimes it's because that's the only thing they can come up with to say to you (like my dentist). Other times people are just making the simple assumption that if you are attractive (especiall a girl), then you attract a lot of potential mates, and you must have chosen one by now. I don't think as many attractive guys get that question.
I think most of the time though, people just say those things because they don't have anything else interesting to say.1
That's something that has always bothered me too. By that logic, good looking people would never be single, ever. But they are. There are plenty.
It really bugs me when people just assume everyone wants to be in a relationship in every phase of their lives. Like, someone breaks up, has a "mourning period", and then the only logical thing to want is to get into another relationship as soon as possible? How about enjoying a single life for a while? Plenty of people want that. And how about people who generally don't care for relationships?
The problem is, there are social standards that a majority of people still belive are the only "right" ways to live by. Same goes with marriage - too many people still assume marriage is something like a natural goal in life for everyone. Well, it's not.1
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