So I met a guy on an online dating site, we live in the same town so he has already asked me to meet up with him - I checked him out on Facebook and I realized he is friends with a group I used to hang out with, so I don't think he is dangerous so I'm not afraid of being hurt by him. What I am afraid of though is that he will want me to sleep with him right away - he's asked me a couple of times to come to his apartment to watch a movie and I have a feeling he expects more than that. Another problem is that he knows my ex - they aren't close friends or anything but I'm afraid it might make things awkward if I went out with him, I know they would figure it out eventually since they have the same friends and they like to long board together sometimes.
So on to my questions - I really want to go out with him, but I don't want to be put into an awkward position where he expects me to sleep with him I've been avoiding his messages for the last couple of days because of it and I made up a stupid excuse to not go to his apartment. What can I do that will let him know this without me making things weird or awkward?
Also what do you think he is expecting? Should I go out with him even if it might cause problems with my ex?
I'm also a little socially awkward, what should I talk about - I don't want to tell him too much about me too fast it would take away the mystery. I honestly don't know what to expect when dating or starting a new relationship because I started dating my ex when I was 14 and only just broke up with him a few months ago. :/
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I think that his invitation to watch a movie at his place is a bit suspicious. He does sound like he may want to have sex with you and it definitely is not an appropriate start to a relationship. I am a bit worried since I feel like you should not go out with a guy so disrespectful. However if you really want something with him then you should suggest another activity. Ask him to do something else, perhaps during the day so sleeping with him is out of the table. I really think you should not sleep with him, I wouldn't be surprised if he never asked you out again if you do.
You said a few months have passed since you broke up. Are you ready to be dating again? If you're not then maybe you should not see this guy. If you are then go out with him, if you ex finds out then let him know that you care about him because he may think that you're trying to make him jealous.0