So I've been friends with this girl for almost 2 years now and never really liked her until recently (last few months). We hang out in person all the time (biking, movies, the pool, the mall, cooking etc) and so I decided that since we were getting close that I'd try asking her out. Every single person that knew both of us would always ask me if we were going out and then proceed to tell me I should ask. So we're definitely a pretty good match. We have almost everything in common and can hold a conversation all the way through out hangouts. I don't text her too much either.
So I asked her out Friday after going on a short day trip and she said yes. We say lets go monday, but she says she'll let me know if she can do monday.
The next day we had already planned to hang out so we do so anyways. I try to talk about the date planned for Monday but she just says yea ill let you know if i can.
She ends up telling me the day of that she cant. Tuesday and Thursday she already has stuff planned with her family (info i knew about before asking her) so we can't do those days either. So I ask would Wednesday be better, she says she's babysitting (shes been babysitting the whole summer, so not made up) and 7:30 would be too late of a date... I then say ok I understand, how about this weekend? and after that she hasn't replied. in over 24 hrs.
Today I see her and say how is the family event going today, and to two questions I give her she gives me a one word reply...
To my knowledge she has never had a boyfriend nor been asked out before so she could be nervous and unsure of what to do or she could have already friendzoned me and not find me interesting. I take it its a bad sign that she has not texted back in over 24hrs (she has definitely had the free time to do so and her phone is not broken). What do I do? Have I just ended my friendship with her?
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I'm still newish to G@G, but this has to be the fourteenth+ story I've read like this. This is exactly why I believe hetero guys and girls should not be friends. Or at the very least should not entertain the idea of being/becoming close friends.
Yeah man, she's not interested in being more than just friends with you homie. When you pushed that line you pushed her away. BUUUUuuuuuuut, it had to be done. If you really like (d) her, then you had no other choice but to suffer in silence or speak up. I think you did the right thing. At least now you know for sure dude. Your specific situation is a bit different as you say she hasn't ever had a boyfriend. So could she be nervous, yes if she were interested. But if she was she'd still make it happen. Her actions thus far definitely fall in line with Friend-Zone.1