I'd like to aim this at people in their 40's or 50's. I've been on a few sites for over a year, and no luck. Guys do appear to be good matches, but no chemistry. Is there any chance to find that spark at my age, online? I've been told I am smart, pretty, funny and nice. No kids, never married. What gives? How else to meet people, other than in bars-which are not my scene.
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Your best bet is through social circles and expanding these social circles, and by that I don't mean social media! I strongly recommend you socialise with friends more, get out and open up your 'circles', interacting with as many people as possible in the real world, face to face. As more people come into your life more options and avenues will present itself. All 3 of my past relationships came about when I made new friends who then introduced me to their friends who I ended up dating.
I've never had any luck with dating websites either and I've used them extensively. A lot of the women on these sites tend to be superficial and high maintenance which is why they're on these sites in the first place. They also seem to crave attention and love all the messages from guys because it boosts their confidence and already sky high self esteem. They don't bother replying and just let the messages flood in. Likewise a lot of guys on these sites are after sex, sending out hundreds of desperate messages a week and most lack any real personality or values. This is why dating site's aren't a good option, your intentions might be good but chances are other people you speak with just have a selfish desire to feed which is why they use these sites.
The internet is great at getting people laid but it's not so great at finding/building a potential relationship. You need to do that in person I'm afraid. I suggest you get out and find someone in the real world. There will definitely be someone out there for you, good luck!0