I hit my girlfriend?

I know this was a huge mistake. She's only 17. One of the biggest in my life by far. She was at my house and we were watching a movie and started making out. She was being a total tease, taking my clothes off and stuff but when i pulled up her skirt a bit she pushed my hand away and told me i was "using her" and she got really annoyed and started screaming at me. I went to hug her and she totally freaked out on me and like kicked me so i got annoyed and kinda hit her in the stomach. I felt so bad but then she kinda just went in my bedroom and went to sleep? I felt bad but i really don't get her reaction. We've been together for 1 year, and i just don't get it. When she woke up this morning she just kinda made breakfast even for me and went shopping with a friend. I don't get it really? It was a mistake. Any advice? Also why is she acting this way?


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  • Of course, she is Holding 'Everything in" Within----Her stomach, her heart---And rather than go Spastic again on you, she is holding it Together, although Maybe by the skin of your teeth.
    You need to sit her down and have a Serious face to face Convo of what you did, Why you did it And---Be a gentleman and Apologize for 'Hitting a woman.'
    I admit she was in the Dead wrong to 'Kick' like a kid having a tantrum, coming Unglued as she did, but in my Book of Etiquette, And as I was growing up to Learn----It is a coward who strikes a woman, but a bigger man to say "I'm sorry," and admit he was wrong.
    She most likely is hurting Inside, doesn't Dare utter a word, and 'went shopping with a friend' to get away from you for the day, most likely talk This Mishap Over with Her friend, and this is Why-----She acting this way.
    When you see her, have this little talk. If you both are in a good relationship, intend on being together in the future, then Keep the lines of Communication Open so This Doesn't have to Happen again.
    Put your boxing gloves away, both of you come out of your corners And----Kiss and make up.
    Good luck. xx

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What Girls Said 12

  • She's 17. Teenagers are not emotionally mature, and have a very difficult time figuring out what they are actually feeling. I'm not condoning what you did, but considering her reactions leading to it, I'd easily consider your actions to be in self defense. She's obviously not ready for an adult relationship and you might be safer letting her go. It's childish to get you sexually worked up and then turn around and get angry at you for reacting in a very natural way.

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  • i dont get it... she must b a little bit baffled as to how far she wants to go with u.
    u said she was taking your clothes off, meaning she's getting cheeky but when u reciprocate she gets mad... i think she's in a stage where she's unsure if she can trust u to that point yet, or maybe she didn't expect it. of course she was wrong for hitting u, but remember that u should never hit her back.

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  • She was acting a bit crazy and I guess she knows that, that's why she made you breakfast. But hitting her in the stomach? really? If it had been a slap in the heat of the moment that's ok maybe, but an actual punch?
    Is this going to happen more often now? Everytime you don't get what you want?

    Did you apologize? Explain to her why you did it and not like you did here, just saying you were annoyed.

    I don't know why she went to bed, I wouldn't have. But maybe she was scared or intimidated. You didn't say how you reacted after you hit her?

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  • i think 'there is something inside her heart' that made her do that... and making breakfast for you , shows that she cares, like you... you need to talk to her with love... love is understanding...
    it happened to me... i was the girl.. i was already hurt due to so many things going on in my life (past, present) .. please don't leave her for this reason alone... give her trust, space and love... she will open up to you and tell you the real reason behind her action... she has already forgiven you for hitting her, other wise she wouldn't make breakfast for you...:) in case you need any other help, just message me...
    i was hurt and left alone because i couldn't act NORMAL... that hurt me more..:)

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    • just get some flowers or chocolate for her... no need to say sorry all the time... she has already forgiven you... be her man... she will love you...

  • Well, you are dating a 17 year old. Are you much older? And she didn't get mad at all after the hit? Was if a punch or a slap? Maybe she didn't quite register your intentions.

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  • i honestly think she is very weired,... you should move on, why accuse you of somthin when she was making you horny,... then becomes angry,... not very emotionaly mature i say,...

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  • Tell her your sorry about what happened. And say you will never do it again. Tell her you aren't using her for sex. Talk about all of it to her. Ask her is she is ready for sex and if she isn't dont make a big deal about it, she will think you were using her if you do. Let her know you love her and your really sorry.

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  • I don't know what to tell you. It would have to depend if it was a slap or a straight forward punch like we would wrestle another man. If it was the later and I were her, I'm sorry but no amount apology would make me stay in the relationship. To punch takes way more effort than a slap and to punch a gf, that to me would be like telling this man must really hate me.

    I think she went shopping because she's probably now talking with her friends what happened and is very confused.

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  • 1 : you were doing fine up until you fricking hit her! don't hit her.. 2 : she probably didn't think about it much, she probably just saw it as self defense. 3 : she probably went to sleep bc you knocked the wind out of her.

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  • So you hit her then she goes to sleep?
    She's pretty weird girls would usually get pissed off or something but she's just weird. You should totally just end it with her or talk to her to try to figure things out

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  • she's just nervous about what happened apologize and explain why u did it and ask if anything is wrong and make sure nothing is wrong and if something is dont freak out about it no matter what it is just stay calm andyyou'll get through it

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  • my be she like you as friend but not as boyfriend you should ask her about your relationship

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What Guys Said 6

  • I'm pretty sure I've read this story before like a month ago and I think word by word, not sure if on GAG but it's even on Yahoo Answers: au.answers.yahoo.com/.../index

    It's because culture ingrains into women that any sexual activity a guy would initiate with them is "using" them and makes them "question their intentions", but if this story is true and she made breakfast then she realized she was in the wrong for freaking out.

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    • Umm, I just went to that link and it's exactly the same. Why is he writting here the same thing if that happened two weeks ago according to the yahoo question? I'm assuming by then, this issue either has been solved or the girl broke up, which is what I would do. I would leave.

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    • Looks like we're seeing bunnies hopping. lol
      I'll give the asker a C+ for creativity.

    • It is disappointing because that means he is just trolling, lol. The answers would be much more hilarious on your typical MRA misogynist websites with a bunch of sexist people. We are too reasonable for this shit.

  • Sounds like she's confused about the relationship. I think it's a good idea to move on.

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    • It's a bit to early for that, it a rather drastic move.

    • Never get attached to anything you can't walk out on in 30 seconds if you feel the heat coming around the corner.

  • depends, she hit you.

    and she could have said she didn't feel like making out.

    probably felt you wanted sex and she isn't ready yet. you can bring it up with her and see what she says.

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  • 3 thing to keep in mind.
    1. You never hit a girl
    2. You NEVER hit a girl
    3. Prefer 1 and 2 and keep them in your brain.

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  • I think you should apologise to her & maybe buy her a DVD or something & a card.

    Say it won't happen again & that it was a mistake.

    If she loves you, she'll oblige.

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  • She's the one who hit you so I would be waiting for an apology from her

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