My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I have been doing great since our recent 3 week break and have gotten back together. We are very much in love, but before we get too hot and heavy into our relationship again I want to know if we have a future together. We live 1.5 hours away from one another and he is 49 and has never left home, I am 50 and have my own house and am separated. He lives with his 70+ year old mother who seems to be very independent and travels the world alone (currently she is in Ghana for almost 2 months on a missionary trip). He has told me in the past that I am the one that he has searched his whole life for. The issue here however is that he seems to be very scared at the thought of leaving home and making a life with me. What do I do? How do I talk to him about this? How much talking should I do... little bits at a time at least once a week to make it seem less scary or what? I have never had to deal with anything like this before and I am at a loss how to deal with it. It seems that he feels responsible for the well-being of his mother even though she just picks up and jets off to various places all over the globe for weeks and months at a time.
Possible Co-Dependency Issues Between Boyfriend and his Mother?
I have been applying for jobs in the area where he lives and will be selling my house to relocate closer to him. We had been house hunting together a few months ago but I am thinking he might have just been doing that without having true intentions.
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He has to show some progress. Maybe moving in together, slowly at first. He needs to address his fears and talk them through with you.0
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