I'm totally smitten with him but he is also really shy. I send him messages like every few weeks to say hi and flirt a little and he always answers but never asks me out. I want things to move forward so I can get to know him but I don't know how to go about it. Especially when I can't get a date with him!
The one thing I haven't tried is calling him on the phone for a chat but I don't have anything whatsoever to say. Can anyone give me any ideas as to what a good reason for a random call would be?
Please HELP! I'm totally hooked and don't know a thing about shy guys! Thanks:)
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I assume the guy likes you "that way" but becomes overwhelmed by shyness, which leaves the moves up to you. I also assume that you know a bit about him. You understand the importance of facial expression with smiles and eye contact (not the fixed gaze and smile, but appropriate).
Make a list of things to start a conversation. You know what interests him, so that's a starting point. Limit what you reveal about yourself in conversation to avoid things too personal and say nothing offensive or opinionated about politics and so forth. When you speak to him, just make light talk and avoid peppering him with questions. If you must ask a question, make sure he already knows the answer, which will make him feel--well, like he knows a thing or two. Once you start thinking of what you want to tell him, you will surprise yourself how loquacious you really are.
Call him to ask for his opinion on something he knows about. You need his help about something. Tell him you want to go somewhere but don't want to go alone (meaning, of course, that he should accompany you). But really, if he is likewise interested in you, just your female voice will turn him on and he will be happy to hear it. That you call him at all should be enough to kickstart a romance, he will be so flattered. If you invited him to attend some event you are sure would interest him, of course he would accept.
Try to avoid direct questions, but when he talks about himself say oooh, uh huh, ummm, ahh, and so forth. Avoid saying anything cross, unpleasant, or complaining. Avoid saying no (but uhhhh is okay). If you actually go out with him, grab his hand and hold it whenever you may. Always stand or sit closely to him, rub shoulders. Smell good. Wear a tiny bit of red.
What I say here is only guideline because behavior cannot always be predicted. Use your creativity and spontaneity when the opportunity occurs.0