I have a friend I've had a crush on for a while, and recently realized I had stronger feelings for. Before I left for the summer, I asked her if she'd be interested in going out sometime when I got back in fall. Rationale being:
- wanted her to know I like her so if she liked me back, she'd be less likely to start dating someone else over the summer
- if she was unsure of how she felt, give her some time to start thinking about me differently without being dating
Long story short, she said that in fall she'd say yes to a date with me if nothing changed over the summer. Do you think it was smart to ask before summer or would have been better to ask in fall for an immediate date?
- Good idea asking earlyVote A
- Should have just waited until fallVote B
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I think asking now is the better move. It kinda puts a "reserve" in her mind for you. Either she will date you or not. Asking now or later will not change how she feels about you. But, asking later will give her time to meet and start dating someone else. Now that you have asked her, if she does meet someone else she may hesitate dating them because you are on her mind now!0