All the crushes I've had finish before starting to be something serious. It is more or less like this: I meet the guy, start to talk to him and become his friend first, if things work out we like each other, then start knowing more about us, maybe we kissed and after all those months or a year pass nothing happen. They leave and get a girlfriend elsewhere.
So, what am I missing? I think I look good, I have an open personality. I try to overcome my shyness often showing them how much I care for them. I don't press them to give me an answer about becoming bf and gf, I give them their time to think and if they don't figure out anything just move on.
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Personality is usually key, when its within someone that actually cares, chemistry secondary again when its a guy that actually cares. And by that I mean he's not a sleaze bag guy that just wants to get in your pants to notch his belt a few points over.
When you meet a guy, that cares. How you act is important, don't try to sell yourself as something your not, and try to understand his quarks and things that drive him off the wall a bit to give yourself a little chance to see if he is right for you before beginning anything, believe it or not some guys are turned off by a lot of things girls do on a daily and constant basis that they don't think they're doing a bad thing, but to some guys, its like nails on a chalk board, for instance, myself, baby talk will kill me (interest wise).
Secondly Chemistry, women tend to follow this more than guys, but guys sometimes have a good upbringing in this, though if their not overly pigheaded about it.
Lastly, your looks should be secondary, what makes you who you are primary, most guys (good ones) aren't looking for the overly ambiguous bagongas (forgive me attempts at teenage humor, its been 20 years). They want someone that they can stand and want to be with for the next 40 - 50 years of their lives, no guy wants to go through life losing half of his assets, having multiple kids with multiple lives, and dealing with drama from multiple bad relationships. And if they do, I am totally unfathomly lost with how we are the ruling force in society.1