im the plain average girl, thats me in my avatar.
and my sister is the smoking hot girl..
hot guys ask her out all the time, even nice chilled guys ask her out...
the sort of guys that ask me out are either rude, nerdey, or just a douched tyoe of guys...
so i never have decent guy ask me out although im a veryyy decent girl, im sweet, i help other, im into my work 'arts' and overall i have a warm heart...
but im just plain and average looking and somtimes im miss judged for it too not sure why...
but it would be like a fantasy come true if a hot guy was even romotley intrested in me like the way they fall in love with my sister...
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There's a huge difference between being Good Looking and Looking Good. Any average girl can raise her value by making her self look good (makeup, fitness, fashion, attitude, vibe, social network, confidence, sense of humour, etc)
So if you're kinda lazy and have settled into a "I don't care how I look" phase then you're going to attract what you're putting out into the world.
It's hard to tell where you're at... from your lack of punctuation in your question I'm guessing you're kinda just "blaaa"? You got a cute face but no smile, so it's hard to tell.
This isn't any kind of judgement, I think girls who are laid back and "real" are the most attractive because they're less drama, they don't want to endlessly fight, and they tend to not seek out attention from every random guy.
So my advice is this: You have to represent the type of girl who can get the type of guy you're looking for.
If you want the handsome man who will sweep you off your feet then you have to be the kind of girl who can attract a guy like that.
And that means you have to understand what attraction is.
And it's not the superficial things you've already mentioned (appearance alone.)
Attraction is about FEELINGS. So if you want Mr. Handsome to find you then you have to make him NOTICE you first. Good looking guys don't often need to dig through the women to find that gem who's hiding in the corner of her bedroom. You have to be out in front of him, smiling and chatting him up.
It's not so much about how you look, although that is important if you need him to see you across the room, but what really matters is how he FEELS when he's interacting with you. That means you have to interact with him enough for him to FEEL your vibe and energy. Are you gonna be fun and confident and flirty and kinda sexy with a secret? Or boring and bland and generic? That's all up to you really.
I hope this helps?
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