I have been dating my boyfriend since December'13. I have a 3 year old daughter he's only met once when he drove us home. (This was months ago) He hasn't really seemed to interested in meeting her (as in he hasn't asked ever) and everyone around me keeps telling me this is strange as apparently he should want to...
If this were you, would you want to meet the kid? Would this be something you would ask about or just ignore until the girl asked?
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I'm childfree and have no interest in children, so I'm not sure if I'm going to give you the opinion you're after. The guys I've dated who had kids were no different to me than guys who had parents. The children were family just like his parents were. I also had the attitude that the child already has a mother and there was no need for me to be involved unless I was faced with doing things that involved a family outing. I didn't request to see the child, and if my ex forced a relationship on me that I found uncomfortable (because really, I am uncomfortable around kids as I just prefer adult company) I found it invasive. I asked about the child just as much as I'd ask about his brother or mother. I simply can't compute the difference between relatives. I also didn't want any confusion that the child had a mother and I wasn't that person. If the child and I had any connection it was just that I was his dad's new girlfriend and I let him decide how to take that. My interest was in my boyfriend and overtly no one else in his family. If your boyfriend shows no interest it could be similar to my situation, where I just had no interest in children in general, and preferred adult company and wanted companionship in my partner, not from anyone else in their family. They were there and I was friendly enough, but that was it. It could be really nothing unless he is flat out expressing he just doesn't want to see your daughter at all.1