I've been seeing a guy for around a month but we aren't an official couple or anything.
I feel bad if he pays for my food just because he isn't my boyfriend and it's not like he has a full time job or anything- he's a grad student.
When we get food together I typically pay for myself but he does pay occasionally when he wins lol.
He will still offer to buy me things or pay for me and I do let him once in a while when it isn't anything big, but I prefer to pay for myself in general.
What do guys think of this? Is it emasculating or something? Or would a guy like that a girl doesn't want to be too dependent on him?
It's not like I fight him for the check or anything or yell at him if he pays lol.
When he does pay I say thank you and try to return the favor by getting him something little at least, like a drink or ice cream or something.
I'm just curious what guys think of this!
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I don't find it emasculating but it's pretty rare to see women pay for dates... let alone offer. There was even one girl that wanted to pay for herself and I just said, "Are you sure, cuz I can get it" and she said, "yeah, I'm sure." and I just said okay... Then later, she said she didn't want to go out on another date with me because I let her pay for herself and that I didn't try and fight to pay for her.
I have had 1 girl that wanted to pay and didn't hold it against me later when I let her, but for the most part... the problem I've seen is that a lot of girls won't date a guy if he doesn't pay. So, when a girl actually would rather pay for herself, the guy insist that he pays because he's not sure if it's going to be held against him later.
But emasculating? Not at all.0