Ok. This is mainly a question for the ladies. When you first start talking to a guy do you wait for him to contact you, or do you reach out to him (after the initial contact). With most girls I'm frequently reaching out to them. If they don't reach out to me is it safe to assume they're not interested, or is that just what y'all do to play it cool?
I have very little patience, so if I'm constantly reaching out to a girl, I'll just erase their number. However, of late I've been doing an experiment and a not contacting girls, but rather waiting to see if they'll say something to me. And they usually eventually ask where I've been. Is that the best approach to make sure they're actually interested?
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Well, I am the kind who likes to be contacted rather than to contact. I admit I don't like to put it out there that I am interested, as to kind of "protect" myself in case I am wrong about the guy (and also, it's about fear of being rejected). When the guy contacts me, though, I respond well, I make conversation, I'm interested in all the stuff about his life, etc.
I may reach out to him here and there, but I will probably have an excuse for it, rather than just ask "hey what's up?". If the guy doesn't contact me for a while, I will certainly come to him. If I don't, that's because I'm not interested.1