Do guys realize how important it is to make their woman feel wanted?
This guy I am dating, we have good conversations about different topics. However, when it comes to getting me to be intimate with him I can't be. He doesn't make me feel wanted in anyway. That is a huge part to becoming intimate.
Why tell you like this type of girl when I am the opposite type of girl?
Nothing will ever happen sexually. All you will ever be to me now is a friend. He put himself there because he doesn't try.
I compliment him all the time and now it is to a point where I am like,"hey I bought this dress to get a reaction from you and nothing" So annoying. I am over it, but my point is... why do some guys think that they will get intimacy without making the other person feel wanted too?
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It took me years to come to grips with this idea. There's a lot of truth in what you're saying and many women share similar feelings on the matter of compliments and feeling beautiful and desired. If sexually frustrated men understood this and accepted it, most of these men would experience the love of a woman or at least understand why their love life doesn't exist. Knowing how to make a woman feel special and desired is one of the strongest assets a man can possess, granted he passed the prerequisite of having established a higher value (status/higher education/brag worthy career/appearance/etc).
What irks me about this is that it comes naturally for most guys. We know in our minds what we want to say, but we don't say it. Why? Because of bullshit. No, seriously. There is a plethora or reasons why a guy wouldn't be as assertive in his expressions of desire for a woman and ironically none of them really help his cause.
I'll just list a few reasons so maybe you understand both sides of the playing field.
1. He believes girls want to take serious guys slow, so he takes it really slow. So slow that you have to tell him to speed up.
2. He believes that he will sound just like every other guy by throwing himself at you verbally and emotionally, and his value is tied to his discipline.
3. He believes that girls don't really want sex as much as he does, so he tries to play along with what she "wants" by playing word games and talking, talking, and talking.
4. He believes that you know you're beautiful and you've had plenty of positive reinforcement, so he focuses on other things that he hopes will impress you and win you over.
5. He believes that you can read his thoughts through his eyes because you are so compatible, and when he is "clearly" thinking that you are beautiful he forgets to properly express it.
There's more but 5 is a solid number to stop at.3